I emailed SDCon about this. No response. When I emailed again, I got a notification of “exceeding the email queue.”

Nice.

You’re right he sounds exactly like some father figure patronizingly telling someone they “know what’s best” and that “this is actually good for them” and yes he “understands the implications” and “it’s actually liberating” but in reality the fact that he had the nerve to even suggest such a thing and to put it into effect at Penguicon shows that - No, he really doesn’t get it on a deep, deep level.

How patronising.

What he needs is some big, burly man from the Bear Community, one who’s twice his size and upper body strength, to express intense, leering, drooling, zombie-like interest in a bit of cuppage. Or more.

How safe would a ‘red button’ make him feel from that kind of attention?

As for the Con scene I heartily recommend WisCon if you can make it, the foremost Feminist F/SF convention and a whole lot of fun with less triggering moments.

Here I was, contemplating re-entering the Con scene, when some jerk comes along and reminds me out loud of why I fled it in the first goddamned place.

Swell.

Just when I thought it was safe to go back in the water,….

I just made a post about Feministe’s short term memory although there’s at least now a update that acknowledges the problems with making that post at this time. It just makes me a little angry (and sad) that she didn’t think about the problems on her own and that it had to be brought to her attention in the comments.